Tercets: December 2012

I’m participating in the Keeping Christ in Christmas Blog Carnival, hosted by Arma Dei:Equipping Catholic Families, Raising (& Teaching) Little Saints, Truly Rich Mom and the Catholic Bloggers Network. We'll be sharing different ways, tips, stories and real-life experiences that will help us focus on Jesus as the Reason for the Christmas season. Please scroll down to the end of the post to see the list of carnival entries (available starting December 20^th).

I mentioned briefly in one of last year’s Christmas posts about the importance of keeping Christmas focused on family time and Jesus. I want to take this opportunity to explain how this is an extension of our overall family philosophy that spending time interacting together as a family is a priority. My husband and I believe that our children will reach their best potential if they spend the majority of their non-schooling time interacting with other family members. This is why our children do not watch television after school or during breaks. This is why my husband comes home for dinner every night. This is why we always attend mass together as a family.

We have taught our children that Advent and Christmas are about waiting for Jesus and celebrating his arrival. I will explain more about how we do this later in the post. Of course, my children know that we buy gifts to exchange with family members, and they look forward to opening the gifts they receive. However, they don’t really think much about that part of Christmas. Every year, their grandparents and uncles ask them what they would like to receive, and they rarely have an answer prepared. They just don’t spend time picking out the toys they want to receive, making a list, or dropping hints.

I believe their nonchalance is the result of another family philosophy: an absence of materialism in our home. For many reasons, we live frugally, buying only what we need, and avoiding excess. While we sometimes buy ahead when things are on sale, we often wait to buy seasonal clothing and shoes until that weather arrives. We try to buy seasonal produce, avoiding costlier out of season items, such as watermelon in winter. From these habits, the children learn that everything has it’s time, and you get what you need when the weather or season arrives. On Christmas Day, you open presents: no need to spend much time thinking ahead if you aren’t in charge of the buying (which the children are not).

Something that really helps to minimize materialistic thoughts in our home is the limited television and internet time our children have. They rarely watch television programs and the commercials that accompany them. When they do watch, we are all watching together, and the commercials are muted. We are also planning to watch less live television and watch programs with the children through cable on-demand service to avoid even more advertisements. The less encouragement children see to become consumers, the less likely they are to ask for the latest toys and gadgets. In fact, we have only recently re-subscribed to cable after taking a year off to save money and the children did not even notice the cancellation. And while they certainly know about most of the trendy toys, they rarely ask for them, preferring to play with the ones they already own. Keeping the children away from internet sites and games sponsored by toy companies in the guise of entertainment also prevents them from focusing on the next new toy that is being promoted.

So, how do I keep the kids busy during all this technology free family time? During Advent, I organize faith activities in a calendar. You can read more about this and some of the specific activities we have done here. We also bring home many books about Advent and Christmas from the library. Find a list, along with more faith activities, here. We mark our progress through Advent with a family Advent wreath. Also, each of my children makes a wreath that they can “light” on their own with paper or yarn “flames.” They made the wreath pictured below two years ago.

I also keep the kids busy with crafts and learning activities focused on Jesus during the Christmas season through Epiphany. This year, we are planning to do similar activities; if I have time, I will post about them.

I look forward to your thoughts about these topics, so leave a comment if you have something to say.

I am not yet returning to full time blogging, but I wanted to participate in this special carnival that reflects a key part of our family life this time of year. I am still trying to use my free time to revise my poetry manuscript, and I’m making slow progress. I hope to make more progress during the semester break, and to post now and again.

Thank you for visiting, and Merry Christmas.

Carnival Links:

You can read my 2013 post for Keeping Christ in Christmas, about joining church ministries, here. You will find the 2013 blog carnival list of links at the end of the post.

In 2013 I am linking with: Christmas in July

In 2012 I linked with: Catholic Bloggers Network, My Favorite Things, Peace in Preparation, Advent 2012, Keeping Christ in Christmas, Faith Formation in Young Children, Better Mom Monday, Welcome Home